Have you ever met the perfect woman that came with "extra baggage"? In order to love this woman properly you have to accept everything that comes with her rather it be a child/ children. I have been in this situation many times and I've realized that I have a passion for the family life that I lacked in my own childhood, and I feel that the best way to embrace that is to give to other children I meet along the way until I have my own. The more you fall in love with this woman, the more you become attached to the child embracing your live for her/him like that child were your own. Enjoying the daily tasks of feeding, nap time, you know the family life.
I think back to when my love began for them....... When we first met she was reluctant to let me meet her family, and with the child being in the toddler stages it was kind of hard to see or visit them. So soon down the line we met, yea all of us and that first moment when she was crying I laid her across my chest as if she belonged to me. As we both fell asleep with the long of. happiness on her face I turned and said. "don't sweat it I'm good with children". She laughed and been by my side since. Overtime our relationship has become deeper from me being around during the key moments in her family's life such as surgery doctor appointments and I plan to be with. her when it's time for her to sign up for school.
My love not only for her but for them as a unit as a family has became stronger as if........ I gotten her pregnant years ago. At times I think this could be harsh territory because of the situation but as a man we must always remember that you don't have to take the place of a father to be one. I am the Child-less Father I think about everything I went thru as a child good and bad, then I flip it as if I was cooking flap jacks for breakfast and think what can or could I do better or differently. And I've conquered my own childhood thoughts with them, and headed on a better route since day one with them.
In closing I love ya never forget that The Child-less Father Phillip Marcus